Y163 09c Eca Starting with Psychology


I’d like to say that most of my days are happy days, but that is not the case. Like most people I have happy days, not so happy days and unhappy days. Why is that? In this essay I will try to explain the reasons as to why we have these different levels of happiness.  

In order for us to recognise the happy times, we have to have the opposite

The unhappy times are often when we fall out with someone close, or suffer bereavement, or are in conflict with people or matters, which affect the balance of everyday life. Remembering a loved one that has gone, will sometimes give us mixed feelings, giving happy memories of that person and unhappy feelings that they are not there to share it. Unhappiness is a negative feeling that apart from making us feel sad can in some circumstances lead to depression and desperation.

The psychologist Richard Layard (2005) in a wide ranging piece of research attempted to identify the various factors that make us feel happy. His “Big Seven”, listed factors that “promoted feelings of happiness”, such as, good health, satisfying work, personal freedom, but the most important of all was family and other close relationships with, this last one   being the single biggest factor, affecting happiness.

The sense of wellbeing, that underlies a good close relationship, enables people to be able to deal with the ups and downs of that relationship in a far more constructive manner. In doing so, we, within ourselves, feel more content or happier. If this happiness is not prevalent, then the relationship has problems. Communication plays a key role in a relationship and those who find happiness within that relationship tend to be able to have recurrent, clear and open communication.

Robert Lane (2000, p.6) also identified, that happiness was linked to our feelings of wellbeing and relationships and that our happiness increases as we develop those relationships with family and friends. He also pointed out “it is...