Candace Barr
COM200: Interpersonal Communication (GSL1213B)
Jennifer Lloyd
April 2, 2012

    In the article, “Close Relationships Sometimes Mask Poor Communication,” it discusses that people mistakenly believe their loved ones understand them better than anyone else. In truth, people have a harder time communicating with their loved ones than they do strangers.   For example, my husband   and I have trouble communicating because he does not listen very well and I grow impatient with that.   I want to be able effectively communicate with him so that he will listen and not twist things around.   I tell myself to keep communicating short and to the point so he will focus more on what I am saying more rather than just hearing noise.   Normally, I do not have trouble communicating with anyone else except for my mother, which is another loved one.   She likes to talk over people especially me.   Therefore, it is true that people have a harder time communicating with loved ones rather than co-workers or peers.
    Sometimes, by my husband not listening to what I am saying, it causes a big fight because he spends too much money and overdraws the checking account or I tell him that there is very little money in the bank and he has our five year ask me if we can get McDonald’s.   Over the years, I have grown short tempered with him because of these poor communication skills.   Furthermore, in a sense, we both want to be heard and understood as it has been shown in our text.
“One of the most obvious benefits of human communication is that it allows people to share thoughts, feelings, experiences, and views of the world. When you do so, you share the meaning they have for you, and you connect with others. A prominent early 20th century British psychologist named Frederic Bartlett (1932) believed that people are motivated by what he called "effort after meaning" (p. 20), a fundamental need to understand reality and the world around them....