Personal Relationships

By Clarence Saunders
January 28, 2013
Interpersonal Communication
Instructor Danielle Doud

In my research, I came across an article written by Health Day News.   This article was on Monday January 24, 2011.   In an article it was mentioned that many of us think that we have good communicating with are loved ones.   It was alarming to find out in this article, written by Health Day that this was not the case.   A study was done on this subject, and the findings were spouses sometime communicate with each other no better than, someone who did not know one another.   It was alarming to read that most people believe, they communicate better with close friends compared to strangers.   The article reminded us all that closeness can be overrated, and can give us a false sense of security.   In this same article there was a term used to define a condition called closeness-communication-bias.   The articles co-author Boaz Keysar, a professor of psychology at the University of Chicago.   Professor Keysar outlined in a newsletter explaining what he meant, and he was involved in conducting a study of 24 married couples to take part in a study to examine their communication skills with one another.   In his study, he and his co-leagues gave different couples, various tests to find out if different meanings or phases meant the same to each other in their relationships.   Many of the couples were given different phases, to find out what it meant to one another.   One of the examples given to a couple was a phase, ‘Its getting hot in here, what comes to your mind when you hear that phase?   What was learned, most of the males took that phase as a come on of a sexual nature.   Rather the women just took the word to mean she is hot and need to cool off a bit.   In another case, the author Kenneth Savitsky, a professor of psychology at Williams College noticed, that many of the husbands would agree that their wife’s was thinking about sex.   It was found out that...